|First Day of Summer
||[Jun. 21st, 2007|10:49 am]
Based on a whole bunch of conversations I've been having ...
How many weeks before a party should one send out invitations?
6 weeks or longer
Do you agree with naming pets "real" names
No - pets should have pet names
Why not? People seem to treat pets as children anyway
What's the point? No pet except a dog responds to its name anyway
How old should a girl be before she gets her ears pierced?
Do it when they are babies
If you are married (or have been married), what was the thing most of your marital arguments were about?
going out too often/not spending enough time together
other (please specifiy in comments)
Suppose a husband cheated, the wife forgave him, he did it again, then she found out he had an illegitimate child, does the child make the whole situation worse?
No - adultery is adultery
No - she was an idiot to give the marriage a second try
No - the child is a red herring, it's the fact that he betrayed his second chance
Yes - somehow the kid does make it worse
Other (specifiy in comments)
You used radio-buttons in a couple of spots where I would have multi-selected:
Party: It depends. A formal "this is a party" (even if it is for kids or a theme party - I don't mean formal as fancy dress necessarily) at a busy time of year (e.g. Christmas, Canada Day) needs at least 4 weeks. A more informal "hey I want to have a party, lets invite everyone to dinner or potluck" may only need a week or two.
Pet names: I don't think it's weird. But I don't think giving kids unusual but pretty names is weird either.
Ear peircing: When she's old enough to ask for pierced ears. And if she doesn't want them then she can wear clipons instead. I clamoured for pirced ears from when I was in grade 1 until I was in grade 3 when my mom finally took me to get them pierced.
I even had trouble filling out some questions. I dislike ticky boxes on a lot of questions (unless it is something that requires a lot of answers, like what is in your car) because otherwise you end up with everyone picking "it depends". Of course everything depends, I just want to know on average what other people think.
I used to throw "get togethers" in my apartment. In my head a "get together" was the calling people 2-7 days in advance and had next to no planning, whereas a party general had a theme, and maybe decorations or more elaborate food and thus more notice was given.
Man on man, I didn't even realize that I broke one of my cardinal poll rules!
Well, too late to fix it now I think. (I never fill out polls that don't allow results viewable by "all" or by "friends" because LJ's implementation of "none" is as I understand if that the poll creator is the only one who gets to see answers). This is why I usually avoid cortejo
's polls. I would love it if, as Con_girl suggested to the LJ Suggestions team, that there was a true double blind polling option because I think in most cases when people use "none" that is the intent they are going for anyways.
I'm not sure I know what LJ means by "results viewable to: None" since this one says that and yet, aren't these the results? http://www.livejournal.com/poll/?id=1007356&mode=results
All you have to do is click on the poll number and then on the "[ View Poll Results ]" option and there they are.
If results are viewable to all, it means that the individual names of who voted which way can be obtained by clicking on "view answers".
Ok - that makes sense, although their phrasing could have been a bit clearer, perhaps, "individual answers viewable to: [All|None]".
I'm glad you told me. I would never have thought "none" was a sticking point for people. I would have thought "all" would have been more of a problem, especially for questions like "what do you and your (ex)spouse fight most about."
I think I need to do a poll about polls. :)
For the ear-piercing one, I said 7 or 8 because I think by that age the child is old enough to understand that it's a medical procedure (it may hurt a little bit when it's being done and it will certainly be a bit tender for a week or so afterwards until it heals and will require proper after-care to ensure it doesn't get infected). Even then, I think I'd want to see the request repeated several times to be sure she really wanted it and that it wasn't just a passing fancy.
Personal experience: I got mine done when I was 16, much against my parents' wishes ("If God wanted holes in your ears He would have put them there!"). My cousin did them with a darning needle and an ice cube and I had no trouble at all. I've never regretted getting them done, although I only rarely wear anything but keepers (I *do* have nice earrings - honest).
You are not the first friend I've had who has a friend/cousin/friend of a friend with an ice cube and sharp instrument story. You are however the first female friend I've heard it from. It was a not uncommon thing for guys because (at least when I was a teen and in my twenties) it was more scandalous for a son to get his ears pierced and thus it had to be done on the sly via the ice cube route.
I guess it's that generational thing again - one generation older. When I was getting mine done, the parent-acceptable choice was the family doctor. Jewelery stores were just getting into doing piercing, but that was still considered risky ("They're jewelers, what do they know about hygienic ear-piercing? You'll get an infection!") The fact that my cousin was in training to become a nurse made her an acceptable choice in my parents' eyes. Worked for me! :)
If she was training to be a nurse that does elevate it beyond the "we were sitting in my buddy's garage drinking when he said, "Let's pierce our ears" and went inside to get an ice cube" kind of story.