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[Jan. 11th, 2004|11:01 pm]
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From the deep to the shallow ...

Was reading more of "Everybody's Normal Till You Get to Know Them". (A book that desperately needs a shorter title - am I sick of typing or writing it out in my journals.) He asks these thought-provoking questions at the end of each chapter. One question gave me pause:

Who, of all the people you know,
a) can you call at 3:00 AM if needed?
b) prays for you on a regular basis?
c) can you drop in on unannounced without embarrassment?

And I realized that it is the same answer for all 3 questions - no one.

How did my life get to this point. I am the kind of person people can call on at 3:00 AM. I do pray for my youth group, friends, and family on a regular basis. Can people drop in on me without calling first? Well I'm not always home. And the place a mess. (Does without embarrassment refer to the person dropping in or the homeowner?) So, how did I let my relationships get to such a sorry state where they aren't truly mutual exchanges of caring and being cared for? Does the lack of mutuality mean that I don't have true relationships, but something closer to ministry projects or people I need to take care of?

And of course, the all important question - now that I realize that I have this problem with intimacy and mutuality in my relationships, how do I fix it and move from where I am now to where I want to be.

Now, for the shallow ...

What on earth am I going to do with my hair? When I watch shows like "What Not to Wear", I love how the stylist can look at this person who is a total mess and create a style that totally works with their face shape.

I'm not even sure what shape my face is. Everyone I've asked (Mom, Hunter, GF - 3 people, not the biggest pole)gives me a different answer. I can't seem to figure out what would look good on me.

I've been growing my bangs out to eventually do a side part that sweeps across my face in an asymetrical way. However, so far, I just have hair that hangs in my eyes and that I have to adjust 30 times a day.

From: fairydarkfire
2004-01-12 04:31 am (UTC)
For your hair what if you went to a stylist and let decide what is best for you? Isn't that what they do on the show? People can each give you their opinion on what we think looks good but we are not professionals.

As to the questions.....

1. I think though we feel close to people we would never think of bothering them early in the morning. I am the same as you and have no problem with a friend calling me in the morning yet I would not want to bother anyone else. I would probably call my sister if I was in a bind.

2. I am not much into prayers but I do like to send positive thoughts in the directions of my friends If I know they need them.

3. hehe I am in the same boat as you. I would be embarrassed by my messy house if someone dropped in unannounced. :) I have dropped in on Laksmi but I called from up the road before arriving.

Good questions.
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[User Picture]From: vesta_venus
2004-01-14 10:38 am (UTC)
That is the thing about the show - the stylist is there to give this clued-out fashion disaster his opinion of what would look good for her hair-wise. In real life though, not all hairdressers are that creative. Sometimes they just want you to tell them what to do and requests for their input don't go anywhere. (Of course, I have also encountered the reverse - wher you know what you ant and they try to impose what they want.)

But that kind of make-over is exactly what I need. As long as they didn't layer the back (which makes it too hard to straighten) I would be willing to give up control.
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From: fairydarkfire
2004-01-14 08:10 pm (UTC)
So let me ask in LJ if anyone has a hairstylist they like and trust?
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[User Picture]From: vesta_venus
2004-01-16 09:07 am (UTC)
That's about what I should do - start asking around, especially if I can find anyone with really good hair.

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